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The Average Kid Round The Block, He Doesnt Give A Damn What You Do Nor What You Say To Him, 'Cuz He Knows That All The Shit That Happens, Happens For A Reason. Dont Mess With Him, Just Do Your Own Stuff And Stay Outta His Way. ghost_gothik94@hotmail.com |
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Tuesday, February 16, 2010, 11:09 PM
After an extremely long break from blogging, I'm finally back to post, though I dont think I will update frequently anymore. Blogging has just somewhat lost meaning for me. I think its because I no longer have any more thoughts that I need to pen down. Though, just for today, I guess I will make an effort to write something constructive. You know, I've come across this.. thinking earlier today. It probably applies to me as well. You see, I think that many guys and girls 'stead' or become boyfriends and girlfriends too fast. They havent really gotten to know each other well, and the relationship doesnt really last because theres lack of communication. This has probably happened to me like twice or thrice. Its not that we dont try, its simply because theres some pressure, as a couple, to connect, and in that, I guess we all try too hard. Its different as a friend, coz you dont feel any.. pressure. You can talk freely about anything with a friend of the opposite gender. But somehow, when you talk with a boyfriend/girlfriend you hardly know about, you'll find that its very difficult to start conversation indeed, unless you're a very extroverted kind of person. I'm pretty introverted, though I can hold a decent conversation if the opposite party can respond with smart, intellectual answers that arent simply one word answers.I guess lack of communication would be one of the main factors that actually end relationships badly. This is especially true for introverted people and for people who feel that they need to have a topic in mind in order to initiate conversation. And sometimes, for others, they simply try too hard or tense up. Around boyfriends/girlfriends, theres this.. pressure, that you put on yourself, this check, that you put on yourself intentionally to prevent yourself from screwing up and making a fool out of yourself. But you know, if theres absolutely no topic to start between the both of you, perhaps making a fool out of yourself might actually create SOME topics for conversation and debate, rather than just keeping silent and responding with like, one word answers when you think it looks/sounds cool but it actually is not, and it even makes the situation worse because the conversation ends as soon as it starts. It sucks. Well, and lastly, if you guys dont even have anything to talk about even after some really funny incidents or things, then my advice to you is probably to let go and go separate ways. No point in remaining when the ice is only going to solidify more. And so, my advice to any would-be couples reading this post (if you have a life as mundane as that to read my blog), dont rush headlong into your relationship. Dont go steady just yet. Spend some time getting to know each other. Talk, and communicate, and joke, and play around, until you're ABSOLUTELY sure that you have made the right choice, then by all means go ahead. You may even find that both of you were unsuited for each other to begin with after you get to know each other for awhile. Dont assume that you're meant for each other. It only causes more anguish and suffering when you find that in the end, you're incompatible and break up. And then, I would like to once again refresh my thoughts and memory by posting my thoughts on a topic that I've been asked frequently: the difference between LIKING someone and LOVING someone. How do I define like? Well, its all pretty simple to me. You see, like is a very shallow form of affection for someone. When you like someone, you tend to like him or her due to a certain quality he or she possesses. But when you like someone, usually you dont even know him or her fully deep down. There might be things that you like about him or her, and yet at the same time there may also be things that you dislike about him or her. Liking someone is sufficient to get you into a relationship, but its pretty much safe to assume that the relationship is just going to fall apart in time. The only question is how long. And next, how do I define love? This is abit more complicated. As I have mentioned before, when you like someone, it's just a very shallow form of affection. You may like someone due to certain qualities that he or she possesses and may dislike other qualities that the same person possesses. And yet, love on the other hand, is a selfless, devoted feeling that encompasses all. When you love someone, you dont just like one or two qualities of that person. You like EVERYTHING about that person. And you ACCEPT. Loving someone is about LIKING EVERYTHING about that someone and ACCEPTING that someone for who he or she is, no misconceptions. It doesnt matter if your boyfriend was an ex-criminal. It doesnt matter if your boyfriend works as a road sweeper. It doesnt matter that your girlfriend did drugs and is undergoing rehab. It doesnt matter that your girlfriend is a satanist. When you love someone, you LIKE AND ACCEPT EVERYTHING ABOUT THEM. Its as simple as that. Love is a confirmation, a certainty, an affirmation, that you like and accept everything about that person. Whatever he or she does, you would forgive him or her in the blink of an eye without even considering what you've suffered. You would give up everything if it meant that you and him/her could be together forever. You would rather die if you couldnt love him or her again. That is what I call, love. If you have never liked and accepted EVERYTHING about a person, you cant claim to love them. And here I shall conclude my lengthy post, goodnight- |
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